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Edge or Ease

I moved north with a one-month-old tucked against my chest, her breath warm and damp through the cotton of my shirt, the kind of closeness that makes time feel less like a line and more like a held note. Tucson receded in the rearview not as a place but as a series of textures: the low thrum of a city that never quite agreed to behave, the way night carried sound too far, the way sirens and helicopters stitched themselves into otherwise quiet evenings. There were weeks where the police chases felt almost theatrical, sweeping through the dark edges of our back lots with K9 units and drones, as if the city itself were staging some improvised drama just outside our windows. And yet, in the daylight, there were museums with imperfect walls and stubborn curation, small theaters where people still believed in trying, bars where strangers became friends because there was nothing else to do but talk and stay and return. It was a place that asked something of you. It did not promise ease. And it certainly It didn’t apologize for that.

The Solopreneurship Paradox: Fast Alone, or Far Together?

"If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together."

This African proverb encapsulates a paradox every entrepreneur eventually confronts: the allure of solopreneurship versus the power of partnership and teamwork. Each path has distinct advantages, and choosing between them requires self-awareness, clarity of purpose, and honest reflection on personal goals and temperament.

As a creative entrepreneur, I've experienced both sides of this paradox intimately. Flying solo, I've moved quickly, pivoting without meetings, debates, or compromise. My calendar has been entirely mine, allowing rapid experimentation and swift decision-making. The solopreneurship route is undeniably appealing when you crave autonomy, speed, and the flexibility to constantly reinvent yourself.

New Tides, New Adventures

I got married last week in Puerto Rico. I also just got off a seven-day honeymoon cruise sailing around the Lesser Antilles.

But a week before all this, I was informed that my cush two-day per week position at a creative agency was being phased out. It was actually more like a heartfelt request to come back full-time, or else move on, which was equal parts flattering and frustrating. One thing it wasn’t was confusing. As soon as the ultimatum was thrown down, I knew my decision: I was outta there.

The Van Man

During my latest snowbird road trip to Portland, OR to escape the summer heat of Phoenix, AZ, I met a man.

This man lived in a van.

I had just driven my car through a redwood at Drive-Thru Tree Park (aptly named) and had parked to relieve myself and stretch my legs. As I moseyed into the meadow, I noticed a man and two dogs walking towards me back to the lot.

He noticed my noticing and nodded a salutation.

I nodded back, “Beautiful beasts you’ve got there.”

“Wanna meet ‘em?” He called back.

First Fruits

The 2nd espresso hits the bottom of your belly like Molotov, exploding fire into your spirit and whipping energy up your spine.

“I’m ready!”

But ready for what?

“Ready to give my gift to the world, of course!”

But which gift? And more importantly, which world?

To whom shall you bequeath your first fruits?

Choose carefully, for this is how you build your life…

Everyone's a Boss (in the worst way)

Total autonomy.

Yea, that’s we want. No one to tell us what to do. Ever.

No one setting a bar or a deadline, no one telling us when to start and stop work, no one dangling a paycheck in front of our noses like a carrot on a stick beckoning the cart-pulling donkey ever forward yet forever out of reach.

“I wanna be my own boss!” we say. “I wanna set my own schedule! I wanna call my own shots! I wanna be free!”

Mmmm, a delicious series of sentiments. What a drag it truly is that this fabled “bosslessness” doesn’t exist…

Your Money, or Your Life?

Your money or your life?

You may think the answer is clear, but take an honest look at your life. Most of us, yours truly included, choose our money. As I write, on April 24th 2021, it really does seem like something is in the water…

Big Fishbein, Small Pond - The Law of Averages & The Key to Happiness

Most folks are possessed by one of two fears:

#1 - "I'm not doing enough, not dreaming big enough. I'm lazy and will never really achieve the thing in life that will truly fulfill."

#2 - "I'm too ambitious, I dream too big. I'm afraid that my eyes are always so focused on the future milestones I'm missing out on the joys of the present...and upon my death bed I'll realize in horror the life I could've lived.

I am unfortunately afflicted with both.

Mayhaps not so unfortunate...but before I spoil the ending, allow me to begin at the beginning.